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Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« on: September 04, 2019, 04:56:26 PM »

Is it because of what I say to them? I've emailed admins mods and users. and about 75% of them don't reply to me or they purposely ignore me. Any suggestions why that is? I want to know, thanks.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #1 on: September 04, 2019, 05:42:36 PM »

Maybe you're being a pest.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #2 on: September 04, 2019, 07:48:20 PM »

... or maybe you're just innocently asking and saying things that aren't that important/necessary. I'd say don't keep trying to contact them unless it actually is an important matter, or you'll only make things worse. They're busy people, with lives outside the forum.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #3 on: September 04, 2019, 08:29:53 PM »

People have lives outside of a road forum.  When you messaged me I just happened to be on the forum at the time, otherwise I probably wouldn't have noticed for several days.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #4 on: September 04, 2019, 08:43:16 PM »

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #5 on: September 04, 2019, 09:03:28 PM »

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?
Like pictures of myself and my friends. And it's not important probably because it's not meant to be on this forum. I'm probably better off putting that on a different website.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #6 on: September 05, 2019, 03:20:41 AM »

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?
Like pictures of myself and my friends. And it's not important probably because it's not meant to be on this forum. I'm probably better off putting that on a different website.

That borders on abuse of the PM system. While we cannot police PMs, as they're private, the system is still intended mostly to facilitate on-topic discussion between users in a one-on-one setting, and to allow forum management to communicate with users without being publicly visible. Using the PM system as an ad-hoc social media service is not its intended purpose.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #7 on: September 05, 2019, 07:05:10 AM »

Either way, youíre not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if itís totally relevant and on-topicósame as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matterópeople arenít required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didnít know.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #8 on: September 05, 2019, 12:12:36 PM »

Either way, youíre not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if itís totally relevant and on-topicósame as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matterópeople arenít required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didnít know.
Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #9 on: September 05, 2019, 12:29:19 PM »

Either way, you’re not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it’s totally relevant and on-topic—same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter—people aren’t required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn’t know.
Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Or if it's a question out of left field that has nothing to do with the person you sent it to.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #10 on: September 05, 2019, 12:51:16 PM »

Either way, youíre not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if itís totally relevant and on-topicósame as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matterópeople arenít required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didnít know.
Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that donít make sense or donít relate to them.   Case and point; I donít know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #11 on: September 05, 2019, 01:06:53 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #12 on: September 05, 2019, 01:55:54 PM »

Either way, youíre not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if itís totally relevant and on-topicósame as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matterópeople arenít required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didnít know.
Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that donít make sense or donít relate to them.   Case and point; I donít know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 

Thatís what I was referring to as wellóI had not heard of Highway Divides and didnít know anything about whatever it is. I did note that PM went to a group of forum members, but I didnít want to hit reply-all.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #13 on: September 05, 2019, 01:58:22 PM »

Either way, youíre not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if itís totally relevant and on-topicósame as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matterópeople arenít required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didnít know.
Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that donít make sense or donít relate to them.   Case and point; I donít know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 

Thatís what I was referring to as wellóI had not heard of Highway Divides and didnít know anything about whatever it is. I did note that PM went to a group of forum members, but I didnít want to hit reply-all.

I didnít even catch it was a group message. I replied back that I wasnít on the site nor was previously.   Itís not like I got a reply back acknowledging that I replied...maybe I should make a thread about it?  :rolleyes:
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #14 on: September 05, 2019, 03:38:25 PM »

He may have sent a number of messages about Highway Divides...I received one too.  But I didn't know what it was either.
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« Reply #15 on: September 05, 2019, 04:33:56 PM »

He may have sent a number of messages about Highway Divides...I received one too.  But I didn't know what it was either.

The one he sent me also lists the following recipients: vdeane, Brandon, roadman65, and jeffandnicole. Easy enough to see what we have in common if you view the member list, though of course you and cpzilliacus (and others) fall within the same general category.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #16 on: September 05, 2019, 05:01:17 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.
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« Reply #17 on: September 05, 2019, 05:34:35 PM »

What the freak?
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #18 on: September 05, 2019, 05:36:50 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #19 on: September 05, 2019, 05:39:18 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #20 on: September 05, 2019, 05:42:48 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

Itís all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldnít have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didnít answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little. 
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #21 on: September 05, 2019, 05:52:08 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

Itís all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldnít have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didnít answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.
should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #22 on: September 05, 2019, 05:55:46 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

Itís all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldnít have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didnít answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.
should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.

Yeah, I remember that thread now.  That was more about that guy complaining about being banned more than anything else.  The OP in that thread was a pretty odd duck to say the least.  I guess it spells out pretty clearly on the end post regarding the discussion of other websites on boards.  Either way Iím sure there is a way to focus your question to a audience that might be more in line with the website you had questions about rather than just mass messaging the top 30 something posters. 
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #23 on: September 05, 2019, 06:57:53 PM »

should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

Consider yourself warned: unsolicited bulk PMs are not permitted.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #24 on: September 05, 2019, 07:11:46 PM »

I found it funny how the Highway Divides owner's ONLY post on here is about that the one who got banned (traffic light guy)... Though I only found out about Highway Divides because of this thread, today.
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