Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?

[tolbs17]

Is it because of what I say to them? I've emailed admins mods and users. and about 75% of them don't reply to me or they purposely ignore me. Any suggestions why that is? I want to know, thanks.

[renegade]

Maybe you're being a pest.

[webny99]

... or maybe you're just innocently asking and saying things that aren't that important/necessary. I'd say don't keep trying to contact them unless it actually is an important matter, or you'll only make things worse. They're busy people, with lives outside the forum.

[Max Rockatansky]

People have lives outside of a road forum.  When you messaged me I just happened to be on the forum at the time, otherwise I probably wouldn't have noticed for several days.

[ozarkman417]

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?

[tolbs17]

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?

Like pictures of myself and my friends. And it's not important probably because it's not meant to be on this forum. I'm probably better off putting that on a different website.

[Scott5114]

What is it that you are even trying to say to them? Is it important?

Like pictures of myself and my friends. And it's not important probably because it's not meant to be on this forum. I'm probably better off putting that on a different website.

That borders on abuse of the PM system. While we cannot police PMs, as they're private, the system is still intended mostly to facilitate on-topic discussion between users in a one-on-one setting, and to allow forum management to communicate with users without being publicly visible. Using the PM system as an ad-hoc social media service is not its intended purpose.

[1995hoo]

Either way, you're not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it's totally relevant and on-topic–same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter–people aren't required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn't know.

[tolbs17]

Either way, you're not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it's totally relevant and on-topic–same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter–people aren't required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn't know.

Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

[jeffandnicole]

Either way, you’re not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it’s totally relevant and on-topic—same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter—people aren’t required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn’t know.

Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Or if it's a question out of left field that has nothing to do with the person you sent it to.

[Max Rockatansky]

Either way, you're not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it's totally relevant and on-topic–same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter–people aren't required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn't know.

Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that don't make sense or don't relate to them.   Case and point; I don't know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 

[MNHighwayMan]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

[1995hoo]

Either way, you're not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it's totally relevant and on-topic–same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter–people aren't required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn't know.

Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that don't make sense or don't relate to them.   Case and point; I don't know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 

That's what I was referring to as well–I had not heard of Highway Divides and didn't know anything about whatever it is. I did note that PM went to a group of forum members, but I didn't want to hit reply-all.

[Max Rockatansky]

Either way, you're not automatically entitled to a reply if you send someone a PM even if it's totally relevant and on-topic–same as with e-mail, text messages, leaving voicemails, etc. Same is true of starting a new thread, for that matter–people aren't required to post replies. 

I thought about not answering the question you sent me a few weeks back because I had no idea what you were asking about, but I decided it was painless just to say I didn't know.

Well a little weird that no one answers my questions and doesn't reply, I find it that some of them hate me.

Probably more a case of you sending messages to people that don't make sense or don't relate to them.   Case and point; I don't know why you thought I was on Highway Divides much less how to logon. 

That's what I was referring to as well–I had not heard of Highway Divides and didn't know anything about whatever it is. I did note that PM went to a group of forum members, but I didn't want to hit reply-all.

I didn't even catch it was a group message. I replied back that I wasn't on the site nor was previously.   It's not like I got a reply back acknowledging that I replied...maybe I should make a thread about it? 

[froggie]

He may have sent a number of messages about Highway Divides...I received one too.  But I didn't know what it was either.

[1995hoo]

He may have sent a number of messages about Highway Divides...I received one too.  But I didn't know what it was either.

The one he sent me also lists the following recipients: vdeane, Brandon, roadman65, and jeffandnicole. Easy enough to see what we have in common if you view the member list, though of course you and cpzilliacus (and others) fall within the same general category.

[tolbs17]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

[Rothman]

What the freak?

[Max Rockatansky]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

And you're wondering why a lot of people didn't want to respond?...spam much?

[tolbs17]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

And you're wondering why a lot of people didn't want to respond?...spam much?

No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

[Max Rockatansky]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

And you're wondering why a lot of people didn't want to respond?...spam much?

No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

It's all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldn't have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didn't answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little. 

[tolbs17]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

And you're wondering why a lot of people didn't want to respond?...spam much?

No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

It's all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldn't have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didn't answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.

should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.

[Max Rockatansky]

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?

like i sent it to 30 users.

And you're wondering why a lot of people didn't want to respond?...spam much?

No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

It's all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldn't have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didn't answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.

should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.

Yeah, I remember that thread now.  That was more about that guy complaining about being banned more than anything else.  The OP in that thread was a pretty odd duck to say the least.  I guess it spells out pretty clearly on the end post regarding the discussion of other websites on boards.  Either way I'm sure there is a way to focus your question to a audience that might be more in line with the website you had questions about rather than just mass messaging the top 30 something posters. 

[Scott5114]

should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

Consider yourself warned: unsolicited bulk PMs are not permitted.

[ozarkman417]

I found it funny how the Highway Divides owner's ONLY post on here is about that the one who got banned (traffic light guy)... Though I only found out about Highway Divides because of this thread, today.