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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #25 on: September 05, 2019, 09:05:25 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And you’re wondering why a lot of people didn’t want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

It’s all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldn’t have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didn’t answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.
should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.

I only posted that message because he brought a fight over here from another forum.  BIG difference.  We don't want to have to babysit people who have an issue with a completely different Admin team from being banned/suspended.  This wasn't our issue.

Also, for future reference, try this site to see if a site is down.  Might tell you it could be just your ISP messing around with your connection at that moment:
http://downforeveryoneorjustme.com/

That way, you don't need to mass spam PMs to people.  This IS NOT Twitter, or Facebook.  We don't have unlimited space like they do for databases (well, I'm not sure exactly how much space the forum gets in the database, only Alex knows, but it's still prudent to not spam it up if we can help it since he pays the bills).  We don't need to have 30 of the same PM hiding in ours with no way to delete them unless the end-users do it themselves.


Consider yourself warned: unsolicited bulk PMs are not permitted.

Also, we can, and will remove the ability to send PMs from you, if we hear from others your doing this again.  We don't like doing that as it's an option of last resort before a full ban (temp or permanent), but we've had to do it once in the past to another user to let them know to stop it.  Please don't make us do it again, as we don't take people abusing that system lightly.

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #26 on: September 05, 2019, 09:10:52 PM »

Either way, going back to the original question he raised, nobody is ever required to respond to a PM and it's unreasonable to act as though you think you're entitled to receive a reply, regardless of whether the PM was sent to one user or to a large group.

Edited to add: BTW, I wouldn't normally post a PM publicly because I view that as a bit of a faux pas since, well, it's a private or personal message. But I feel like he's more or less waived that via his comments in this thread, so for those who didn't receive the PM in question and might be wondering, this is the one I got (along with the other people I mentioned before). Don't know whether it's identical to what froggie and others received. My reply is below his message.

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How do you register on Highway Divides? Because every time i hit the register button, i get "This page isn't working". Any suggestions? Thanks.





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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #27 on: September 05, 2019, 09:46:22 PM »


Consider yourself warned: unsolicited bulk PMs are not permitted.

Also, we can, and will remove the ability to send PMs from you, if we hear from others your doing this again.  We don't like doing that as it's an option of last resort before a full ban (temp or permanent), but we've had to do it once in the past to another user to let them know to stop it.  Please don't make us do it again, as we don't take people abusing that system lightly.
Alright, I will stop. I didn't know that there was a rule against that.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #28 on: September 05, 2019, 10:21:50 PM »

He may have sent a number of messages about Highway Divides...I received one too.  But I didn't know what it was either.

The one he sent me also lists the following recipients: vdeane, Brandon, roadman65, and jeffandnicole. Easy enough to see what we have in common if you view the member list, though of course you and cpzilliacus (and others) fall within the same general category.

And I didn't even realize I was in that club until I was about 62 posts into that club.  (Would've been in it sooner if I didn't get a promotion at work and actually got a helluva lot more work to worry about! lol)
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #29 on: September 05, 2019, 11:09:28 PM »

I'm not sure this is a question I want to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. Just how many PMs have you been sending?
like i sent it to 30 users.

And youíre wondering why a lot of people didnít want to respond?...spam much?
No, I want to see who would use highway divides. It was apparently down and not a single person has been on that site where I got the answers from. It's called mass messaging.

Itís all call spam messaging. Had I noticed you sent out a message to a billion different users I wouldnít have replied either.  Worse, is now you want some sort of justification from everyone who didnít answer.   Maybe a thread would have sufficed since it probably would have left the door open to people who use the site to respond?  I know this is the era of instant gratification but damn...probably ought to whoa those expectations down a little.
should have probably did that instead, but i saw the guidelines, and I didn't want to get warned by a mod or admin about it. So I sent it all in PMs instead.

I was looking at this thread by the way

https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=21859.0

I didn't want something like what Ian or rickmastfan said to traffic light guy so that's why i sent it in PMs.

I only posted that message because he brought a fight over here from another forum.  BIG difference.  We don't want to have to babysit people who have an issue with a completely different Admin team from being banned/suspended.  This wasn't our issue.

Also, for future reference, try this site to see if a site is down.  Might tell you it could be just your ISP messing around with your connection at that moment:
http://downforeveryoneorjustme.com/

That way, you don't need to mass spam PMs to people.  This IS NOT Twitter, or Facebook.  We don't have unlimited space like they do for databases (well, I'm not sure exactly how much space the forum gets in the database, only Alex knows, but it's still prudent to not spam it up if we can help it since he pays the bills).  We don't need to have 30 of the same PM hiding in ours with no way to delete them unless the end-users do it themselves.

That site is not down, it's working right now, I hit register, and it works. Maybe it was down for a little bit when I was asking the question to 30 users. Again, I won't mass spam anyone else unless I have something important to ask someone. I know it may have sounded weird, but I just wanted to see if anyone would find out the reason why that is.

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #30 on: September 06, 2019, 08:05:31 AM »

Either way, going back to the original question he raised, nobody is ever required to respond to a PM and it's unreasonable to act as though you think you're entitled to receive a reply, regardless of whether the PM was sent to one user or to a large group.

Edited to add: BTW, I wouldn't normally post a PM publicly because I view that as a bit of a faux pas since, well, it's a private or personal message. But I feel like he's more or less waived that via his comments in this thread, so for those who didn't receive the PM in question and might be wondering, this is the one I got (along with the other people I mentioned before). Don't know whether it's identical to what froggie and others received. My reply is below his message.

Quote from: 1995hoo
Quote from: mrhappy1261
How do you register on Highway Divides? Because every time i hit the register button, i get "This page isn't working". Any suggestions? Thanks.





MrHappy

Sorry, I have no idea what youíre talking aboutódonít know what Highway Divides is.

Yep.  Same message.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #31 on: September 06, 2019, 01:34:41 PM »

Either way, going back to the original question he raised, nobody is ever required to respond to a PM and it's unreasonable to act as though you think you're entitled to receive a reply, regardless of whether the PM was sent to one user or to a large group.

Edited to add: BTW, I wouldn't normally post a PM publicly because I view that as a bit of a faux pas since, well, it's a private or personal message. But I feel like he's more or less waived that via his comments in this thread, so for those who didn't receive the PM in question and might be wondering, this is the one I got (along with the other people I mentioned before). Don't know whether it's identical to what froggie and others received. My reply is below his message.

Quote from: 1995hoo
Quote from: mrhappy1261
How do you register on Highway Divides? Because every time i hit the register button, i get "This page isn't working". Any suggestions? Thanks.





MrHappy

Sorry, I have no idea what youíre talking aboutódonít know what Highway Divides is.

Same message here, and I did not respond as I've never been to Highway Divides.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #32 on: September 06, 2019, 02:34:44 PM »

I also got the message about Highway Divides. I did join it, after learning about it on this forum, but it seems to be a much more focused and less general forum than this one, so I haven't been on it but very rarely.

As for not answering messages, I only reply if I feel like it. That pertains to work as well as personally.  :-D
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #33 on: September 06, 2019, 10:31:04 PM »

I'm sorry to restate this, but the fact is we don't care about your personal life. Post that on instagram or snapchat or whatever. We talk about roads here. I get it, I'm in high school, you need to show people that you have friends. But stuff like that doesn't belong here.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #34 on: September 06, 2019, 10:42:38 PM »

Consider this a preview of the real-world. Just because you send a message does not guarantee (or entitle you) to a response. No one is required to reply to anyone. But who you choose to ignore can have other consequences (court summons, the IRS, ...).

Lack of response happens a lot in the business world. In those cases, you hopefully can then elect to not do business with them any longer. The OP doesn't appear to mention how long they waited...some people also take forever to reply.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #35 on: September 06, 2019, 10:47:27 PM »

If you want to share photos of yourself to people on this forum, try this: Link a Flickr or Instagram page to your signature, and label it "personal images" or something along that line. That way, only those who are interested will see it.

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #36 on: September 06, 2019, 11:44:00 PM »

If you want to share photos of yourself to people on this forum, try this: Link a Flickr or Instagram page to your signature, and label it "personal images" or something along that line. That way, only those who are interested will see it.

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #37 on: September 07, 2019, 11:23:25 AM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #38 on: September 07, 2019, 02:10:05 PM »


Lack of response happens a lot in the business world. In those cases, you hopefully can then elect to not do business with them any longer. The OP doesn't appear to mention how long they waited...some people also take forever to reply.

Ha. I'm used to not getting responses at work for answers to things I need to know in order to do my job!
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #39 on: September 07, 2019, 04:43:25 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
He's autistic, if you weren't aware. It can look and sound the same at times.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #40 on: September 07, 2019, 04:51:09 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
He's autistic, if you weren't aware. It can look and sound the same at times.

Has the OP ever brought up his medical history on the forum before?  Seems kind of cheesy to go all speculative on something like that if it wasnít advertised as an open book subject. 

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #41 on: September 07, 2019, 04:52:26 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
He's autistic, if you weren't aware. It can look and sound the same at times.

Has the OP ever brought up his medical history on the forum before?  Seems kind of cheesy to go all speculative on something like that if it wasnít advertised as an open book subject.
https://www.aaroads.com/forum/index.php?topic=25400.0
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #42 on: September 07, 2019, 06:26:41 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
What the fuck kind of horrible person discusses personal problems in a public forum?

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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #43 on: September 07, 2019, 08:06:33 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
What the fuck kind of horrible person discusses personal problems in a public forum?
Jeez, relax. He's just trying to help. I get that it wasn't really something that needed to be posted, but he has good intentions.
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #44 on: September 07, 2019, 09:18:51 PM »

Are you on meds at all, if you do not mind me asking?  You sound like you may have depression and you might also want to see your primary doctor to see if you are depressed.

That can make you a bit more sensitive and feel inferior at times.  Believe, me when you feel that way it can make those around you a bit uncomfortable and even loose focus at times.

See your doctor to play safe.
What the fuck kind of horrible person discusses personal problems in a public forum?
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Re: Why don't i always get a reply when i send a pm to a user?
« Reply #45 on: September 07, 2019, 09:25:05 PM »

I think this thread has gone on long enough now.

 


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